New Nursing Home Trend

Many moons ago, the only people  living in nursing homes were the elderly.  If your parents or grandparents needed 24 hour care, you could put them in a home where there would be nurses and aids there 24-7  to assist them.

But, there’s a new trend going on( here in Louisiana for sure).

Facilities that previously only had elderly people are now getting young folks,

folks in their 20’s-50’s…way too young to be in a facility with the elderly.

Not only that, a lot of these young people have mental health problems

or drugs and alcohol problems.

Some of the young people who end up in these facilities are helpful to the elderly.

But a lot of times, they intimidate the elderly to the point where the elderly are afraid to say anything against them.

Then, there’s the abuse

and the situation of having young, sexual men in a place

with females who are either elderly or

mentally challenged.

I received a phone call today informing me that an elderly female in one such facility was raped by a male living there.

That’s a hard pill for a family member to handle.

You think you’re doing the right thing by your loved one,

putting her somewhere medical care is available,

meals are being served,

she can no longer wander out of the home so, she’s supposedly safe.

Then, you get a call saying someone raped her there.

The nursing game has changed.

It’s sad but, it’s true.

I’ve heard horror stories over and over again.

I’ve witnessed horror stories too.

Since there aren’t any place for the mentally ill to go anymore, it seems the new trend is to put them into nursing facilities.

But what happens to the poor elderly people who have to be there…

with a paranoid schizophrenic,

who refuses to take his medication?

Who’s  really protecting them?

Folks call the state all the time and nothing ever changes.

If anyone is thinking about putting their loved one in a nursing care facility,

do your research first.

Don’t believe what they tell you.

Visit there at different hours of the day.

Walk every single hall in the facility.

Take note of the mental capacity and age of everyone you see,

employees included.

Let your senses be your guide.

What do you see, hear,smell?

Hang around for lunch and order a plate,

how does it taste?

Do you see residents wandering around aimlessly or

are they engaged in activities?

What is the work environment like?

Happy employees take better care of people.

Visit as many places as humanly possible before making a decision about where you’ll put your loved one  because,

the game has changed.

Healthcare has changed…

and the elderly are suffering because of it.



19 thoughts on “New Nursing Home Trend

  1. OMG! that is so sad and true! When I dated guy with multiple health issues the dr’s wanted him to go to ‘rehab’ as they put it.
    for 10days he was ignored. His PCP didn’t come to see him. There were people who lived there, that seemed to be just thrown away.
    i agree, the age difference varied. I pray that GOD will continue to give you strengh in the things that you see and hear and do.
    take care my friend!

  2. This is very scary, BC, and I’m so glad you’ve written about it. My MIL is in a nursing home and we visit regularly and at different times of the day. We want to make sure she’s getting the best care possible but I never thought of anything like that happening. Thank you so much! Would you consider cross-posting this to NOLAFemmes? Please email me.

    • Charlotte, you all can use any post I put up at any ole’ time. NOLA Femmes rock!
      I’m sending you an email.
      The situation has really gotten bad since Katrina. I can count only a handful of places that actually have only elderly people in them (not counting the private pay sector like Lambeth, St. Anna’s,Poydras Home and Woldenberg).
      Most have a mixture of young people and elderly…not a good situation.

  3. Wow, this is so sad on many levels. It’s sad that mentally ill people in this country have no where to go but prison and now nursing homes. And it’s sad that the elderly are being subjected to this kind of thing.

    We don’t live in a compassionate country. People like to say we do but we don’t.

    • Val, that’s the truth. What are we really doing with the mentally ill? I don’t believe in outpatient treatment for someone with mental-health issues. How in the hell are you going to get someone who is not right mentally to go to a clinic in order take pills or take them on their own? Shit, we can barely get them to take the pills when they’re in a facility.
      If they put the meds in their mouth you have to damned near make them say,”supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” to make sure they swallowed them. If you don’t, they’ll spit’em out when you turn your back.

  4. This is so sad…on many levels. When I was little, my mom worked on an elderly nursing home. I volunteered there many times. I can’t imagine young people there. Now she works at a special needs facility. We need to create AND maintain similar facilities for the mentality insane population. I know I am preaching to the choir. Something has to be done!

    • I know Taz. That’s why I blog about this stuff. People need to be aware of what’s really going on in a lot of nursing facilities. When they tell you how “wonderful” the facility is…don’t believe them. Check it out for yourself!

  5. Oh my goodness…I didn’t know about this disturbing trend. It’s scary and it’s sad and it’s utterly horrifying. 😦 My heart breaks over this.

    • Crystal, I know. That’s why I blog about it. So many people put their loved ones in nursing homes thinking they will be cared for. They don’t know the real circumstances and I want everyone to be aware so they can proceed with knowledge.

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